By Margaret Nicolas Decena Alpajora
[Monday, October 18, 2011 at 12:39am]
True friendship isn't about convenience;
It's about that special bond between two people called love that lives on no matter the distance or the length of time.
It's about being there for each other, and appreciating each other.
It goes both ways, and not just one.
It's about sharing each other's burdens so they aren't as heavy.
If you lost a friend to hate or indifference because they got sick of you, or you of them, then the friendship was not meant to be, it was only another obstacle in life that was meant to help you grow, and if you did not grow, it was pointless.
True friendship is eternal;
Nothing can come between it, not a crush, or a fight, or other people's disapproval.
True friendship never dies;
It may sometimes look like it has ended, but in the hearts of both, the love still remains.
True friendship survives;
When it seems like all is lost, and like the bonds are severed, the warmth in your heart when you see them smiling proves that it is still alive.
Being a friend is about more than just being the same, or being inseparable, or sharing personal belongings.
It is about loving, and caring, and kindness.
It is about sharing smiles, tears, happiness, pain, anger, and sorrow.
It is not about the quantity of the memories shared, but the quantity of the memories cherished.
True friendship cannot judge, or slander, or condemn.
It sympathyses, empathyses, understands, consoles, and soothes.
It is not about the how often you talk, but about how you speak to each other, what you speak to each other about, and how much these conversations matter to you.
It is about being stupid, and crazy, and retarded together, and getting in trouble together, and laughing about it later, insted of blaming or regreting.
It is about forgiveness, faith, trust, and love.
Wanting to see them happy dispite your own position, wanting to see them happy even when they no longer wish to assossiate themselves with you.
It is about defending them when they are being slandered behind their back, insted of joining in to save your other friendships.
About telling each other the painfull truth, or pointing out each other's faults or wrongs without any anger, judgement, heat, or disrepect.
They do what is best for each other, even if it is not what the other wants, but needs - and give each other the best advice, even when the other does not want to hear it.
It is about communication, without which trust and faith fade away.
It is about sometimes getting hurt, but understanding that it happens to everyone, and that all are only human, and making up for your hurtful actions.
It is about still remaining friends with somebody even though they disagree, accepting each other's opinions ond other friends.
About accepting that sometimes friends fight, and that it doesn't always mean the love is gone. It is about setting aside one's pride if it threatens to ruin the bond.
It is about apologizing when you realise you are wrong, and not always letting one person take the blame.
It is about accepting each others flaws and weaknesses, as well as each other's strengths.
It is beyond jelousy, hate, anger, and fault.
Beyond insults, or grudges, or secrets, or pretence, or treason.
It is about loving them and accepting them for who they are.
It is about competition, and challenge, and sportsmanship.
It allows you to play games with insults and ridicule and rough housing towards each other in the spirit of fun and laughter.
... But the friendship always remains intact, even when it doesn't seem like it.
That's what true friendship is to me.
It's days like this I stop, take a breathe of fresh air, and appreciate all the amazing people I get to call my friends. ♥ MAD MAD MAD LOVE ♥
Real Talk ♥
This is for you guys!
Real Talk ♥
This is for you guys!
Baby May
xxx
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