True Friendship

By Margaret Nicolas Decena Alpajora

 [Monday, October 18, 2011 at 12:39am]

True friendship isn't about convenience;

It's about that special bond between two people called love that lives on no matter the distance or the length of time.

It's about being there for each other, and appreciating each other.

It goes both ways, and not just one.

It's about sharing each other's burdens so they aren't as heavy.

If you lost a friend to hate or indifference because they got sick of you, or you of them, then the friendship was not meant to be, it was only another obstacle in life that was meant to help you grow, and if you did not grow, it was pointless.

True friendship is eternal;

Nothing can come between it, not a crush, or a fight, or other people's disapproval.

True friendship never dies;

It may sometimes look like it has ended, but in the hearts of both, the love still remains.

True friendship survives;

When it seems like all is lost, and like the bonds are severed, the warmth in your heart when you see them smiling proves that it is still alive.

Being a friend is about more than just being the same, or being inseparable, or sharing personal belongings.

It is about loving, and caring, and kindness.

It is about sharing smiles, tears, happiness, pain, anger, and sorrow.

It is not about the quantity of the memories shared, but the quantity of the memories cherished.

True friendship cannot judge, or slander, or condemn.

It sympathyses, empathyses, understands, consoles, and soothes.

It is not about the how often you talk, but about how you speak to each other, what you speak to each other about, and how much these conversations matter to you.

It is about being stupid, and crazy, and retarded together, and getting in trouble together, and laughing about it later, insted of blaming or regreting.

It is about forgiveness, faith, trust, and love.

Wanting to see them happy dispite your own position, wanting to see them happy even when they no longer wish to assossiate themselves with you.

It is about defending them when they are being slandered behind their back, insted of joining in to save your other friendships.

About telling each other the painfull truth, or pointing out each other's faults or wrongs without any anger, judgement, heat, or disrepect.

They do what is best for each other, even if it is not what the other wants, but needs - and give each other the best advice, even when the other does not want to hear it.

It is about communication, without which trust and faith fade away.

It is about sometimes getting hurt, but understanding that it happens to everyone, and that all are only human, and making up for your hurtful actions.

It is about still remaining friends with somebody even though they disagree, accepting each other's opinions ond other friends.

About accepting that sometimes friends fight, and that it doesn't always mean the love is gone. It is about setting aside one's pride if it threatens to ruin the bond. 

It is about apologizing when you realise you are wrong, and not always letting one person take the blame.

It is about accepting each others flaws and weaknesses, as well as each other's strengths.

It is beyond jelousy, hate, anger, and fault.

Beyond insults, or grudges, or secrets, or pretence, or treason.

It is about loving them and accepting them for who they are.

It is about competition, and challenge, and sportsmanship.

It allows you to play games with insults and ridicule and rough housing towards each other in the spirit of fun and laughter.

... But the friendship always remains intact, even when it doesn't seem like it.

That's what true friendship is to me.

It's days like this I stop, take a breathe of fresh air, and appreciate all the amazing people I get to call my friends. ♥ MAD MAD MAD LOVE ♥
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Baby May

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Thoughts of a Teenage Let-down

By Margaret Nicolas Decena Alpajora

 [Sunday, October 9, 2011 at 5:55am]

Don't blame other people for the stress you decide to put on yourself. 

Don't call people selfish when you don't know how to give selflessly. 

Don't call people ungrateful when you only ever see peoples flaws & ignore their merits & forget to apreciate them. 

Don't call people mean when you walk around with an angry face shouting at & scaring people then saying you don't care when somebody points it out. 

Don't tell anybody they will regret something when you neither know nor care about any of their hopes, their dreams, or their plans to acheive. 

Don't assume you know somebody enough to predict their thoughts & actions when you've never bothered to try to get to know them. 

Don't try to predict a persons thoughts & actions by generalising behavioural patterns of their age group, because everybody has different morals & personalities. 

Don't expect friendliness from somebody when all their attempts at closure are met with a scowl, suspicion, and an unfriendly tone when you speak. 

Lastly... 

NEVER try to stop somebody from making their own mistakes by forcing them to learn from yours; 

Lessons in life are meant to be learnt 1st hand. By learning the hard way, people are challenged to gather their own wisdom & grow. 

Sometimes when you think you know what's best for somebody else, you're only puting them in greater danger to crash & burn when you're gone. 

Always GUIDE, Never CARRY. 

It is difficult to trust the ones you love to experience the rocky roads of life, but slowly letting go of control over them is trusting that they were raised to be strong when the hard times must be theirs alone to face. 

Trust is key. Without it, there is nothing.